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Avoid these common mistakes individuals
often make early on in their relationships that often
lead to making relationship choices that do not work.
 Not asking enough questions.
The more information you have about a person, the better
you’ll be able to judge whether that person will
make a good mate. The less you know about someone, the
more likely you will choose a person without knowing who
that person really is. In the world of relationships,
ignorance is not bliss!
Making premature compromises.
Premature compromise involves changing or editing your
own values, behaviors, and habits in hope that you and
your partner will appear to get along more harmoniously.
Enter into relationships knowing what your values, interests,
and loyalties are and be committed first to yourself and
second to your partner.
Ignoring warning signals of potential
problems. By seeing only what we want to see and
not what we don’t want to see, we set ourselves
up for eventual feelings of disappointment, betrayal,
and anger. When a warning sign is detected, you must ask
yourself is this something reasonable that I am willing
to deal with or is this something unreasonable that I
am not willing to deal with.
Giving in to lust blindness.
Quickly engaging in a lustful or sexual relationship with
a person often blinds us to the real person. Lust is easily
mistaken for love. Good sex does not necessarily translate
into a good relationship since we may be in love with
passion without even knowing the person.
Giving in to material seduction.
In our society where such emphasis is placed on outer
rather than inner wealth, we often fall prey to material
seduction in choosing our partners. We are often influenced
by a person’s money, lifestyle, material possessions
and power to the exclusion of whether the person is really
compatible.
Putting commitment before compatibility.
Becoming seriously involved in a relationship before giving
much thought to whether the person is really right for
you can lead to a lot of problems if the person turns
out to be wrong for you. |
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