The Rate-A-Mate Scale (RAMS) will assist you in finding and keeping one when it’s right and letting go when it’s wrong. With RAMS relationship choices will be based on ‘love plus a dose of reality.’ By objectively assessing how compatible or desirable a potential relationship partner is; and through identifying whether that person has any Fatal Flaws you can quickly determine who’s “Right” and who’s “Goodnight.”

The Rate-A-Mate is for you if:

• you are in a relationship and you’re not sure whether to continue or let go,
• you are actively dating, meeting and attracted to many and need a way of determining who’s best for you,
• you are in a committed relationship and want to look realistically at areas in which further growth is needed for greater satisfaction,
• you need more clarity in what ’s really important to you in a relationship,
• you keep choosing the wrong person or the same person in your relationship choices,
• you just met a new person and need a quick way of determining if it’s worth investing more time and energy or if it’s destined to fail,
• you want to know the components that are essential in evaluating any potential relationship,
• you want to know how you rate on your desirability to others.

The Rate-A-Mate Scale takes the vagueness and generality out of whether you are compatible with another person by allowing the calculation of a compatibility index. This provides a realistically look at what a relationship would look like with that person. It also allows you to objectively compare several people you may be considering for the important position of being your relationship partner. The Rate-A-Mate Scale is not a structured interview, but rather represents areas of information you need to know about a person you’re considering for a relationship. The best way to obtain this information is through general conversation, guided inquiry, careful listening, and knowing what you’re looking for. Turn your dates into more than just opportunities to have fun – really get to know the person sitting across from you before you commit to a relationship.